In the first part of this series, we explored the principle of Cause and Effect and how, when you do X, then Y results. When X is disrupted, you get a different result. Often that result can be something you don’t expect. In turn, this often causes discomfort and chaos.
We also looked at how we, as individuals, are often at the root of that disruption as a result of something we did – or did not do.
Reality check: Areas of your life are always in a state of change. Heck, weather patterns, moon phases . . . everything causes a ripple elsewhere. Consider:
- Your child had a nightmare last night and it also affected your quality of sleep.
- There is a detour going to work.
- Your co-worker reported in sick and you will be taking on some of his/her tasks today.
- Your boss has an urgent project that wasn’t on your radar for today.
It is important for us to honestly examine those situations in which WE are at the root and in which we are not. I have control over my own thoughts, beliefs and actions. I cannot control those aspects in other people.
For instance, I cannot control the health of the co-worker who decided to not come in today. Nor can I steer my boss away from that urgent assignment he is about to give me.
In these situations, the chaos that begins to emerge into my day can either take over my life (emotionally, physically and mentally) or I can make choices in how I will receive the chaos.
It is inevitable that the “fight or flight” hormone, cortisol, is going to creep into my system, at least for a few minutes, until I can regain my bearings. It is important to remember I do have control over my response(s). Here are some thoughts I might make regarding the above scenarios:
- Even though I didn’t get much sleep, I am so grateful my youngster was able to work through the nightmare (with my guidance) and felt safe and secure in our home.
- Even though this detour will extend my drive time by 15 minutes, I welcome the gift of being able to see a different part of town.
- I’m sorry Joe is out sick today; I’ll call him later to see if there is something I can do for him personally, since he is alone. And it might be fun to work on a different project today; I’m sure I will learn something new today!
- My boss, Janet, is always so organized. If this urgent project popped up on her radar unexpectedly, it must be important. And I am honored she chose me to help her with it!
Did you sense a shift in your gut as you read through my thoughts? Instead of being angry, rushed, stressed or bitter with situations over which I did not have control, I instead opted to look for the “gift” in each scenario.
Here are some introspective questions I offer for your consideration the next time life throws you a curve:
What new skill or knowledge can I gain from this shift in tasks?
In what way might I increase my value to the company today?
What would it happen if I opened my heart with grace and calm? How might that change the energy around me today?
How can I ease someone else’s pain or discomfort?
When in the midst of your “chaos”, stay in the NOW. Learn to recognize the difference between situations for which you have control and those for which you do not. Make a conscious choice how you want to work the the chaos. You may be surprised at how that slight shift in attitude will deliver rewards!Meanwhile, Make it a Golden Day!
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