where your thoughts have brought you.
You will be tomorrow
where your thoughts take you.
~ James Allen ~
Have you noticed that the longer you are in this stage of adulthood, the more challenging it can be to remain joyful, hopeful and curious?
It’s understandable that a person might lose one’s optimism. After all, the more we have “been around,” the more opportunities there are to experience deceit and the horrible things that humans so often do to one another. And truthfully, we learn about our own destructive tendencies, our faults and our weaknesses. So yeah, it is easy to become jaded, to let the negative attitude seep into our being. It is easy to expect less.
If we are not careful, we’ll soon wear that attitude as a familiar, comfortable coat to protect us from years and years of disappointments, hurts and failures.
One of the things I’ve noticed around me as I have aged is that we “oldies” become more judgmental and less trusting of others. I see bitterness and despair. I hear it in the words we use and the “stories” we hold onto. Maybe you’ll recognize some of these:
- “Oh my aching back.”
- “All my friends are sick or dying.”
- “I should have done this or that.”
- “I never was good at . . .”
- “I didn’t do a good job of saving money.”
- Didn’t, couldn’t, can’t won’t . . . .
Perhaps it’s because there is a sense of lost time and lost opportunity . . . I don’t know. All I know is that when this happens, a person’s doorway to happiness and joyful living slowly closes and the light fades away.
Bring PURPOSE back into your life. Give your life more meaning. Trust in yourself once again.
So often, I believe, when our lives are boring, we become boring to others – there is nothing to talk about, nothing new to say.
Make your life interesting again!
As we age, it is important to continually feed our minds and our lives with experiences that are expansive and uplifting. Learn a new craft, go skydiving on your birthday, save up for a trip you’ve always wanted to take – and then Do It!
If you are more introverted, then reading, cooking, painting or writing may be the avenue to broaden your horizons and set sail into a new adventure.
When was the last time you sat and visited with a neighbor or friend and just shared some time together?
If you are a giving, nurturing type, there is always someone who can benefit from your kindness to run errands, cook them a meal (or like me – deliver some fresh-baked cookies!) And in the process, you will discover that your day has brought you more enjoyment as well.
There is an ocean of opportunity sitting out in front of us. All it takes is a dip into the water to try out a few things. Before you realize it, you’ll find your days are brighter and your life has renewed energy. By focusing on something outside your “story,” your brain creates new signals, new pathways. New thoughts begin to emerge.
To engage in life each and every day, you start by doing.
Today’s assignment: Find one simple pleasure – watch a hummingbird outside your window . . . observe kids riding their bikes, full of energy, excitement and pure joy . . . listen to the rain as it taps on your roof, windows and walkway. Stay in that moment and just BE there.
As long as there is a breath in my body and neurons firing in my brain . . . I intend to make the most of each day . . . how about you?Make it a Golden Day!
Your Coach for Results